The Power and Paradox of Being Seen: Why Self-Validation Could Be Your Biggest Hurdle - Cari Kenzie

Episode #4The Power and Paradox of Being Seen: Why Self-Validation Could Be Your Biggest Hurdle

Cari Kenzie 14 September 2023

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Podcast Description:

Hey there, beautiful souls! 🌟

Welcome to Curiosity. Clarity. and Empowerment.

Honestly, I had to take a few deep breaths just to absorb the depth of what we discussed!

If you haven’t tuned in yet, this episode is a game-changer. I dive deep into the paradox of our deepest desires and greatest fears—specifically, the yearning to be truly seen and the fear that comes with it. Trust me, this is a topic that resonates with each and every one of us, whether we’re aware of it or not.

In this episode, I take you on a transformative journey through my own experiences and those of my clients. I challenge you to confront your self-imposed limitations and to embrace the unique worth of your individual experiences. This wisdom isn’t just theoretical; it’s born out of my own life journey, making it all the more impactful.

One of my core messages is this: “I don’t believe that there are coincidences. Everything that we navigate through is there for a purpose, for a reason.” This then begs the question: How often do we dismiss the challenges we face as mere coincidences or bad luck, instead of seeing them as opportunities for growth and self-discovery?

I also delve into the concept of self-validation, a topic that’s often overlooked but is crucial for personal growth. I talk about how our sense of worth—or lack thereof—can either propel us forward or hold us back. It’s a topic that resonates deeply, especially in a world where we’re constantly measuring ourselves against societal standards.

I then touch on the idea of “invalidation,” which I describe as a lack of perceived worth that we often carry from childhood into our adult lives. I share poignant stories and examples that make you stop and think about your own life experiences. It’s a wake-up call to recognize and challenge these deeply ingrained beliefs.

So, if you’re ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment, hit that play button now! Trust me, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever questioned their worth or felt held back by their own limitations.



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Episode Minute By Minute Breakdown:

  • 01:20 – The Biggest Speed Bumps in Life: Cari discusses the greatest challenges she and her clients face, setting the stage for a transformative conversation.
  • 01:44 – The Paradox of Being Seen: What if our deepest desire and greatest fear are the same—to be truly seen? Cari explores this intriguing paradox.
  • 03:03 – The Detriment of Invalidation: Cari shares how invalidation, or the lack of perceived worth, has been a recurring theme in her life and the lives of her clients.
  • 04:27 – Childhood Experiences Shape Us: From falling down to receiving disappointing gifts, Cari discusses how childhood experiences can lead to a sense of invalidation.
  • 06:29 – A Client’s Story: The McFlurry Incident: Cari shares a touching story about a client’s innocent mistake and how it led to a lifetime of feeling invalidated.
  • 08:28 – The Boston Marathon Experience: Cari opens up about her experience during the Boston Marathon terrorist attack and how it led her to question her own worth.
  • 10:35 – The Importance of Acknowledging Our Unique Experiences: Cari emphasizes that every experience is unique and worthy of being felt and expressed.
  • 12:38 – The Power of Self-Love and Compassion: Cari talks about the importance of self-love and compassion in overcoming feelings of invalidation.
  • 14:19 – The Core Issue: Invalidation: Cari concludes that invalidation is at the core of many of our struggles and offers a challenge to the listeners.

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