September 2022 - Cari Kenzie

The Spellbinding Power of Words: How Dumbledore and Real-Life Showed Me Their Magic

NGMKTG on September 28, 2022

Remember that moment when Dumbledore, in his profound sagacity, shared, “Words are our most inexhaustible form of magic, capable of both inflicting pain and remedying it”? Not just an awe-inspiring quote for your next Instagram caption, but a profound truth I’ve observed time and time again.

Energy and Vibration: It’s All Connected

Everything around us, every little thing, is pure energy – even words. If you’ve ever felt a shiver from a beautiful lyric or a pang of hurt from a carelessly spoken comment, you’ve experienced this firsthand. Every word uttered sends out a vibration, which the universe takes as a cue to shape our reality. Sound too metaphysical? Stick with me here. When we speak, we’re not just releasing air and sound. We’re broadcasting our desires, fears, and beliefs.

Unpacking Subconscious Slips

“Oops, didn’t mean to say that!” Ever caught yourself or someone else saying this? Well, as much as we love Freud, there’s no such thing as a Freudian slip. What we often dismiss as accidental reveals layers of our subconscious beliefs. As a coach, this is gold! These slips give us an opportunity to dive deep, reflect, and unearth what’s truly brewing inside.

Real-Life Magic and Cautionary Tales

Case in point: A casual car ride with my daughter, Allie. From the back seat, she said, “I just want to get in a car accident.” Before I could go full-on protective mama bear, she clarified, “Just to experience it.” Even though Allie understands the value of experiences and lessons, I had to stress the importance of being cautious with what we express. Lo and behold, the very next day, my eldest, Jacob, playfully teased her about a similar incident. Two reminders, back-to-back, about the universe’s uncanny way of echoing our words back to us.

Shifting Energy with Words

Words, much like magic spells, have nuances. Take this: Instead of lamenting, “I don’t want to lose my keys”, why not say “I want to avoid losing my keys”? See the shift from negative to positive? Another hack: Instead of circling around the question “Where are my keys?”, why not ask, “How do I find my keys?”. Subtle, but these shifts channel energy positively. The same goes for commitments. “Trying” doesn’t cut it. If someone says they’ll “try”, read between the lines.

Harnessing Word Magic for Healing

In the grand theatre of life, practicing energy shifts might sound like an esoteric backstage trick. But in reality, it’s an empowering way to harness the magic of words, akin to Dumbledore’s wisdom, to heal, inspire, and create the life we desire.

Remember, our words are the wand. How we wield them determines the magic they create. So, pick up your metaphorical quills and let’s pen down a spellbinding life narrative, one word at a time.

Mirror Reflections: What Our Kids Can Teach Us

NGMKTG on September 22, 2022

In the roller coaster of parenthood, we often find ourselves obsessing over how to raise our little ones. But amidst the lessons and guidance we impart, we forget one little secret: our children often end up becoming our most unexpected teachers. Let’s deep-dive into this beautiful (and occasionally bewildering) world of reflections.

Mimicry is just the Start

You’ve seen it, right? The little mimics mirroring our actions, our speech. While it’s endearing to watch our mini-mes, there’s a deeper reflection at play. They don’t just echo our behaviors; they magnify our own vulnerabilities and strengths.

Sleepless Nights and Deeper Insights

A tale as old as time, or at least as old as parenthood—our children’s sleep, or lack thereof. A client once approached me, worn out from her kids’ nighttime antics, but with an insightful query, “Am I indirectly influencing their sleep patterns?” Our chat that day took an enlightening turn.

Our overwhelming urge to be indispensable mothers often binds us into believing we must be on constant standby for our kids, even at 2 am. However, this creates an energy where our kids absorb our ‘need to be needed’ mentality. And then? Midnight wake-up calls! The fix? Dive deep. Ask yourself – when did motherhood become my sole identity?

Realign, and you might just gift your household the peace of uninterrupted sleep.

Our Kids, Our Reflective Canvas

Children aren’t just bundles of joy and energy; they are mirrors of our own psyche. Ever found yourself unnerved by a certain behavior of theirs? Instead of hastily correcting them, let’s press pause and ponder. Often, what’s triggering in our child’s behavior is a mere reflection of unresolved issues within us. It’s the universe’s way of flashing a neon sign, saying “Hey! Look here, something needs mending.”

Identifying Patterns

From moods to tantrums, from phrases they utter to actions they repeat – these are clues. Instead of dismissing them with a typical “It’s just a phase”, approach them with a researcher’s curiosity: “Interesting! Where’s this coming from?” Sometimes, it’s about recalling our own unaddressed traumas since childhood.

It’s Not Always You (and that’s okay)

While it’s introspective to look within when our kids act up, let’s remember they’re also individuals with their unique experiences. Not every misstep is a reflection of our own. My oldest, for instance, might stumble upon challenges. If I’m calm, watching him, it’s his lesson. If I’m flustered? Time to dig deeper within me.

The Freedom to Fall

From our first steps to life’s intricate dance, falling is a part of the process. If we swoop in every time our kids face a challenge, we rob them of life’s invaluable lessons. While our protective instinct screams otherwise, sometimes the kindest thing we can do is let them fall. And when they do, we’re right there – not to carry them but to guide, love, and show them the way back up.

Conclusion

On this shared journey of life, let’s remember our kids don’t merely inherit our features; they often reflect our inner worlds. While guiding them, let’s remain open to the lessons they unwittingly teach us. Because, in the end, when we grow, they flourish, and together, we embark on a journey towards collective healing.

Healing Beyond The Material: Unpacking My ‘Bag of Stuff’

NGMKTG on September 20, 2022

In the frenzied moments of a high school football game, the echoing thud of helmets colliding sends shivers through any parent’s spine. It did for me when my son Jacob took a heavy hit in his senior year, the year he wanted to play his best. The immediate diagnosis? A concussion. A verdict that would normally signify an end to his high school football journey.

The Power Beyond Conventional Healing

But Jacob and I shared a secret; we knew something more than what meets the eye. As he signaled to me from the field, I understood that he believed – as I had taught him – in the power to heal beyond the constraints of conventional thought. We both shared faith in a transformative energy, capable of undoing the impossible. So, down on that field, we harnessed that very energy and journeyed through the maze of his concussion.

Redefining the ‘Bag of Stuff’

As I later rejoined the crowd, a fellow mom innocently remarked, “I didn’t know you brought your bag of stuff with you.” This got me pondering, what exactly was my ‘bag of stuff’?

In today’s palpable world, the default is often to lean on tangible tools, a materialistic notion that for something to function, there must be a physical implement at play. We’re so enmeshed in this belief that when confronted with a situation, our brains instantly search for a ‘tool’ to ‘fix’ the issue. But what if the most potent tool wasn’t a tool at all?

With Jacob’s concussion, we didn’t rely on anything physical. Instead, we leveraged curiosity and a profound ability to perceive beyond what’s obvious. While many might have been paralyzed by the initial thought, “Oh no, a concussion!”, we dove into its depths with an inquisitive spirit.

The Potency of Curiosity

Being curious is a potent spiritual and mental tool. It paves the way for intuition, allowing us to trust that circumstances can transform in a heartbeat. This curiosity challenges the age-old paradigms of healing, helping us leap beyond the ordinary.

Challenging Established Healing Paradigms

And yes, if you’re wondering about that metaphorical ‘bag of stuff’ I carry, it isn’t filled with traditional tools. It’s brimming with questions, challenges, and the audacity to believe that everything is energy. Energy, which with the right mindset, can be transformed.

Many still cling to the well-trodden paths, those 75 steps or three-week healing journeys. But sometimes, you have to take a quantum leap, a leap that challenges the truths laid out in front of you.

Embracing the Intangible

Remember, in the age-old battle between matter and mind, it’s not about the physical ‘bag of stuff’ you carry but the intangible power of belief, curiosity, and the will to challenge the norms. Because, in the end, true healing starts with a question and culminates in transformation.

Owning Your Experiences: The Surprising Magic Behind Every Moment

NGMKTG on September 15, 2022

“We all have experiences and those experiences matter.”

In the world of high-energy motivational talks and sessions, this phrase might sound cliché, but bear with me for a moment.

How often have you looked back at an event, cringed, and hastily brushed it under the carpet? A lot, I bet. We’ve all been there, done that. But the irony is, in our effort to bury experiences, we give them the very power we want to take away.

Step 1: Say Hello To Your Experience

If you’re waiting for a groundbreaking first step, I hate to disappoint. It’s pretty simple – acknowledge the experience. You can’t rewrite a chapter in your life story if you refuse to admit it exists. It’s like trying to paint a masterpiece without acknowledging the canvas.

Step 2: Embrace Ownership, Not Victimhood

Now, this is where things get gritty. When I say ‘owning the experience,’ I’m talking about real ownership. See, you could wear the cloak of victimhood, and sometimes, rightfully so. But why be the subject of a narrative when you can be its author?

When we rage against an experience, fighting tooth and nail to undermine its influence, it’s like trying to douse a fire with gasoline. Spoiler: The fire wins.

Instead, take a deep breath, step back, and ask:

Why did I need this experience?
How did I end up here?
What set the stage for this moment?

For instance, had you asked me if I’d ever stand at the Boston finish line, awaiting the devastation of two explosive blasts, I’d have laughed. Yet, there I was. But life, in its complex web, often has bigger plans than our imaginations can fathom.

The Magic Behind The Scenes

There’s this all-encompassing higher consciousness. Think of it as our celestial back-up, always rooting for us. It pushes us, often into uncharted waters, because it sees potential. Potential that’s so magical, it’s almost surreal.

It’s the age-old saying: “It’s not happening to us, it’s happening for us.” But how about pushing that boundary a tad bit more? What if it’s not just happening for us but because of us? Yes, that means even those curveballs that seemed way out of left field.

When we genuinely own an experience, we align ourselves with a purpose so profound that the universe itself takes notice. By acknowledging our role in the tapestry of our life, we look at our experiences with newfound respect and gratitude.

Be The Master of Your Narrative

It’s quite liberating when you think about it. When we interact with our experiences, not as mere recipients but as co-creators, their grip on us loosens. It’s the magic of perspective. Your experiences no longer define you – instead, you define them.

So, the next time life throws a wrench in your plans, catch it, polish it, and see the reflection of a person ready to own their story. Because that, dear reader, is where the real magic begins.

This blog is dedicated to every individual who believes in the power of experiences, and to those who are on the journey of discovering it. Let’s continue to create, understand, and revel in the magic that is life.

The Intuition-Driven Life: Trusting Your Inner Wisdom Over Fear

NGMKTG on September 13, 2022

“Ego is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth,” once said an insightful thinker. But let’s begin with a question, shall we? Have you ever found yourself standing at a crossroads, paralyzed by a daunting decision? Do I stay or do I go? To move or to stay put? To risk or to retreat?

Life is chock-full of these giant crossroads. And as we stand there, wringing our hands, we often seek an external force for guidance. Enter: prayer. Ah, prayer. An act as old as time, a comfort to many. Yet, it’s not just about praying; it’s about how we pray.

Is Your Prayer Counterproductive?

I cherish prayer. However, I’ve seen how it can sometimes keep us static, waiting for an undeniable sign from above. We might ask for guidance, hoping fervently for a celestial arrow to show us the way. But here’s the rub: are we actually waiting for a sign, or are we cherry-picking validations for our pre-existing fears or desires? This dance between intuition and imagination is where we often stumble.

The Power of Intuition

Flashback to January 2019. I sold my business. Not because of a well-laid plan, but a surge of intuition. When a friend texted out of nowhere with an interest in buying, instead of dropping to my knees in prayer, I paused and listened to my inner voice. Four times, the same message echoed: Yes. Fast forward to 2020, the world grappled with a pandemic, and businesses similar to mine crumbled. I couldn’t help but whisper a thank you to that voice.

The story isn’t about bragging rights or foresight. It’s about recognizing that sometimes, answers are within us, waiting for a moment of stillness to be heard.

Ego vs. Intuition

Ego, the master of disguise, can veil our inner wisdom. Often mistaken for confidence, ego is, in fact, our fear in disguise, undermining our trust in ourselves and the universe. Remember, ego isn’t just about arrogance; it’s also about self-doubt.

A heart-to-heart with a client unveiled an arresting perspective – she felt she’d been perceiving God as minuscule. When we limit our understanding of the universe, our conversations with it (or God) become limited too.

Expand Your Horizon

The divine isn’t just in sacred texts or whispered prayers. It’s in the vastness of the cosmos, in the depths of our souls, in the silent whispers of intuition. Embrace that vastness. For in understanding the grandeur of the universe and our place in it, we find clarity.

To sum it up, next time you’re at a crossroads, don’t just wait for a sign. Dive deep within, and listen. You might be surprised by the wisdom you find.

Remember, “Ego shouts, but intuition whispers.” Are you listening?

The Quest for Clarity: Why Unclouding Ourselves is Crucial for Helping Others

NGMKTG on September 8, 2022

If you’ve ever stumbled through the labyrinth of self-discovery, you’d know the walls are often built from bricks of past trauma, hurt, and experiences. While some find themselves lost within, others quest tirelessly to find clarity. Here’s my journey through this maze and why I believe everyone should embark on it too.

Navigating The Murky Waters of the Past

When I first dipped my toes into the realms of personal growth, it was like diving into deep waters without a map. But why did I dive? Close ones frequently pondered, “Why this insatiable hunger for classes and answers? Aren’t you drained from the relentless curiosity?” The truth? I was on a mission – not just for knowledge but for becoming a conduit of clarity.

Even when I didn’t know where the compass pointed, my heart knew its ultimate destination: to become the clearest vessel possible. My dream? To be the beacon of hope for people lost in their own journeys.

The Difference Clarity Can Make

Wouldn’t the world be a tad more compassionate if everyone could tune into their rawest, most authentic selves? This isn’t about turning into therapists overnight but about being there, truly present, for someone sharing their story.

Without the baggage of our past clouding our perception, we can see them in their purest light. Reflect back love, compassion, understanding. But with our unresolved triggers, we unwittingly hijack their narrative. Suddenly, it’s our record that’s playing, our trauma overshadowing theirs. Instead of guiding them through their maze, we become trapped in ours.

When The Record Skips a Beat

Picture this: someone confides in you, and as you listen, it’s like a record smoothly playing their story. Suddenly, they touch upon a sore spot in your past. The needle screeches, jolting the record back to the beginning. The conversation has now entered a perilous zone – your discomfort. And just like that, an opportunity to guide is lost in the echoes of old wounds.

If we wish to serve, truly serve, we must journey through our internal landscapes. Face every lurking shadow, every repressed memory. It demands courage, grit, and a dollop of stubbornness. But it’s worth every teardrop.

From Personal Struggles to Collective Healing

My journey began from a place of anguish, lying awake at 4 A.M., cursing a sleeping world while wrestling with insomnia. My nights were long, plagued by frustration. But it’s this very pain that ignited my pursuit of healing.

And as I unraveled the threads of my experiences, I discovered a profound truth. If I could heal, I could help others heal. My vision became clear: to be the friend who listens without judgment, the individual who sees the inherent beauty in all.

A New Reflection Awaits

Often, our mirror reflections are distorted by past tragedies, limiting beliefs, and emotions. They hold us hostage, preventing us from recognizing our true selves. It’s a static picture. To witness our authentic selves, we must embark on the arduous journey of peeling back the layers.

One scab at a time, consistently, until the reflection transforms. And what we then see is the radiant essence of a clear vessel.

Are you ready to embark on your journey of clarity? Remember, the path to helping others often begins with understanding ourselves.